:::..S.I.F...T.I.M.E.S..::: - Protection Versus Perversion

Praised Be the Feminists!!!

In a frenzy of zeal the activists of feminisms have actually lost sight of the obverse side of their ideology. Their cockeyed vision prevents them from discerning the broad spectrum of a woman’s potentiality. A woman has a multi faceted personality.

The hierarchy of her role begins from being a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, a daughter in law, a mother in law and so on. She is the Cog in the Machine called family. Our “so called” feminists have pigeonholed the woman only as a daughter in law. Unfortunately, the blinkers they are wearing do not allow them to broaden their perception.

However, by the grace of our “so called” feminists the world is now the daughter in law’s oyster. She makes her presence felt by the lashes of her tongue on all the family members irrespective of age and relation. Her husband, a poor fellow, helpless like a lamb to the slaughter, cannot do anything in the protest as he has already put his head in the noose. Had he ever dreamt that his beloved damsel would turn a femme fatale from the very day he led her to the alter, and he would be reduced to the humble position of one who would dance attendance on her.

Our blessed feminists are still not satisfied. Why only the daughter in law, doesn’t she have her parents and relatives to concern about? Let them also turn the opportunity provided by the activists of feminism to good account. Let them feather their own nests at the cost of their son in law and his parents. The very same people who entreat you with folded hands, for an alliance between your son and their daughter become hostile, possessive and hawkish right after their daughter wears the label of your “Bahoos”

One fine morning you might find your daughter in law and her entourage – her parents and relatives – barge into your house, then what are you looking for ? Take to your heels before you could say Jack Robinson and do not look behind if you want to have a close shave from 498a and the DV Act, or else a great shock is in store for you. Over night you are surprised to find yourself metamorphosed as a tyrant like Hitler as regards to your relation with your daughter in law, as per the police report. Your son, whom you believe to be a teetotaler, is actually bibulous and drinks like a fish and under the influence, finds none except his wife to exhibit his Dutch courage.

Yes, of course, here is the report. You become an incarnation of “Raktabeej” your wife either of “Taraka” or “Hirimba” of Great epics. Your son as “Dashanana” and the perfect ingénue, you daughter in law, as “Devi Sita” resurrected in Kaliyuga. Your punishment is the gallows and a King’s ransom as compensation to the poor victim. Forget about your house, leave it at the mercy of your daughter in law and her kins.

At the very outset, let me assert that I am not anti-feminist. I am an ardent supporter of women empowerment but under no circumstances do I support the measures taken under the covert of feminism to lead a woman to shake off her values, natural graces, delicacy and magnanimity and turn a spiteful virago, a hag, an insupportable curmudgeon and an absolute Amazonian.

It is worthwhile to explore the domains where the actual fault lies. The road to Hell is paved with good intentions. The rotaries of feminism are kind and compassionate enough to take up the issue of woman/ daughter in law/ wife, at war footing, but the onset may terminate into a complete failure if timely precautions are not taken. Are the feminists really aiming to bring about reforms in the society or they are simply sowing a wind to reap a whirlwind ?

If they really wish to fight for a noble cause let them visit the remotest villages, the insalubrious alleys and slums where women are still reeling under the torment of their men folk. Most of the women are neither aware of their protection laws nor do they dare to come out of their strict taboos. Their plight remains as pitiable as ever. Here on the other hand our feminists have piled up deadly arms, in form of draconian laws for those women, who in fact, don’t need it. They are already wearing trousers and twisting their men round their little fingers in their respective homes. These diabolical laws are, no way, going to affect the people sitting in the corridors of power. They have their invidious and clandestine ways to protect themselves.

Besides the “Bahus” of their families would hardly dare to kick up a fuss whatsoever. But what the man in the Clapham Omnibus is going to do ? His life, otherwise peaceful and happy, turns turbulent from the day the daughter in law crosses the threshold of her matrimonial house. The in-laws and the bridegroom are forced to undergo severe traumas terminating in imprisonment and extortion. So much so that some parents are looking forward to the marriage ceremony of their daughters as a lasso to catch and later kill the goose that lays the Golden Egg. Unlike the goose in the fable, the son in law here, is made to pay a huge amount while inviting the stage.

The moment the Shehnai stops, file a case of divorce through police report, pile on your bank balance by the money paid as compensation, again marry and do the same. What can be an easier way to become as rich as Croesus, within a span of merely a couple of years? Besides, there are people to hold your hand at this time. After all they also have their share. Let them thrive at the cost of the victim, who cares?

Mutual love and respect is the binding factor in conjugal life. There is no scope of coercion, law, police and court. Our lawmakers have overlooked these basic sentimental aspects while enforcing the mandate, which is in fact ravaging connubial bliss. Nothing has been done to separate the sheep from the goats. “What is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander” formula does not work here. Result: rising graph of fake cases, nationwide dissatisfaction and harassment to innocent people. The “Sweet Home” has collapsed giving place to an epicenter of awe and horror. A bulk of youth has become cynical about marriage. They prefer to remain single and, pardon me if I am going too far in my apprehension, may even go aberrant, for a handful of them are likely to be strong enough to resist their carnal desires, which may insidiously cause an irreparable damage to the society. Our myopic and cockeyed feminists, in their effort to give shape to their high ideals, have actually crumbled their own edifice. One can descry the day when these pseudo feminists would be put on the dock and called for an account for creating a maimed and mutilated society.

One cannot deny the justification of establishing parity between a man and a woman bearing in the mind their natural dichotomy that compliments rather than contradict each other. Shiva and Shakti are the two profiles of the same face. My sincere entreaty to Pro Women activists (NCW) is to restrain themselves from driving a wedge between Shiva and Shakti and not drop the fly in the ointment, implementing their devilish vicious – Domestic Violence Law, in its present form. For the long-range interest of the society, let these laws be reviewed, modified and edifying rather than revengeful.

Every action has reaction. If certain organizations have held the wrong end of the stick and are hell bent to destroy Indian families, there are saviors too. Organizations like “Save Indian Family” and “Asha Kiran” are providing a sheet anchor to the drowning man. Their opportune intervention would certainly prevent the families from breaking, children from being fatherless and our elders from being destitute.